Man of Iron

Scripture: 2 Samuel 19:31-38

31 Barzillai [bear-zi-lie] of Gilead had come down from Rogelim [Ro-gee-leem] to escort the king across the Jordan.
32 He was very old—eighty years of age—and very wealthy. He was the one who had provided food for the king during his stay in Mahanaim.
33 “Come across with me and live in Jerusalem,” the king said to Barzillai. “I will take care of you there.”
34 “No,” he replied, “I am far too old to go with the king to Jerusalem.
35 I am eighty years old today, and I can no longer enjoy anything. Food and wine are no longer tasty, and I cannot hear the singers as they sing. I would only be a burden to my lord the king.
36 Just to go across the Jordan River with the king is all the honor I need!
37 Then let me return again to die in my own town, where my father and mother are buried. But here is your servant, my son Kimham [Ken-hum]. Let him go with my lord the king and receive whatever you want to give him.”
38 “Good,” the king agreed. “Kimham will go with me, and I will help him in any way you would like. And I will do for you anything you want.”


Barzillai {Bear-zi-lie} was a highlander from Gilead. He lived in the mountain village of Rogelim {Ro-gee-leem}. I’m sure the village was located on a mountain stream because the name Rogelim means “place of the fullers,” which means the place where they washed clothes. We don’t know a lot about Barzillai other what we have detailed in this story. We do know he was a SENIOR ADULT. I don’t understand why some have such a problem admitting their are SENIOR CITIENS: I love it. I enjoy being a Senior Adult. Why would I enjoy it when so many make fun of the way I walk, my failing memory and my lack of a filter. They made fun of me long before I became a Senior Adult. Most of them are not mean spirited when they make fun of me, they are just having fun and I have fun along with them. One guy did tick me off the other night at a ball game. Some of my friends and family were picking at me about my construction ability and this guy who I do not know chimed in with…”Yeah, he is a jack of all trades and master of none.” I wanted to go slap him but he is bigger and younger than my self.


I have an idea, lets find a better example of a SENIOR ADULT than myself to talk about today and I think Barzillai is just the man. Alexander Whyte describes Barzillai and as a “Lovable old man with invincible charm.” His name means, “Heart of Iron.” This doesn’t mean he was hard hearted, he had a committed and courageous heart. Actually, he was all this and more.


David was his king and he loved him. David probably never recovered from the betrayal of the elders of Judah and Israel. All were solidly behind Absalom. David was literally run out-of-town in a shameful and disgraceful manner. Where as he had a large and loyal support among the military, he had become immensely unpopular with the public and the policy makers. Things did not look good for David. Everyone thought he was as good as gone. His enemies cursed him and his fake friends deserted him.

It is easy to be a friend with someone when things are going great for them but can you be a friend to those who are being persecuted, falsely accused, caught in a web of shame and scandal? Many are capable of being fareweather friends but few have the courage to stick with you when you are headed for the gallows. With the risk of facing scorn or even death, Barzillai brought necessary provisions to the hungry, thirsty followers of David. Are we as loyal to our heavenly Monarch as Barzillai was to King David? 


When David and his weary antorogue crossed the Jordon as they flead from Absolom, Barzillai and other were their with provisions. They brought sleeping mats, cooking pots, serving bowls, wheat and barley, flour and roasted grain, beans, lentils, honey, butter, sheep, goats, and cheese for David and those who were with him.

Some times Senior Adults have the tendency to grow selfish in their old age. We have this fear of running out of money before we run out of life. It is a legitimate fear but we cannot allow it to control us. The bottom line is we must trust God. How many times has He failed us in the past?

There are two things we Seniors can do better than anyone else: We can give and we can pray. How many of these young people are head over heels in debt. They drive $50,000 automobiles and live in $300,000 dollar homes. Some of them have mortage payments that are higher than our income. On the other hand, how many of you SENIOR ADULTS are in debt at all? What these kids owe for, you have in a saving account. Guess what: some of you are still saving. How foolish! You are going to lose it all. You say, “I would help if there was a legitimate need.” No you wouldn’t, you would come up with another excuse. Where there is a will there is a way but where there is no will, there is an excuse. Do you not consider the ministries of DBC a legitimate need? Do you think that a $400 dollar house in Guatemalla is not a legitimate need? YOU ARE NOT TOO OLD TO GIVE. Why aren’t you giving?

The second thing we should be very good at is PRAYER. We have more time. I can’t spend time playing ball anymore. I don’t spend time jogging. I can barely walk. My knees hurt so bad I have a hard time going to sleep. I can still work a little but not like I could. My body is old and it demands more rest. I love being retired. I go to bed when I want to, get up when I want to, work when I want to and quit when I want to. It is not uncommon for me to come in at 3:00 or 4:00 oclock and take a shower and a nap. Sometimes I don’t make it until 3:00. Don’t give me excuses, you have more time. What are you doing with the time you have?

I can tell you what we Seniors do best or at least what are number one past time is: its COMPLAINING. If the Senior adults in this church prayed to God as much as we complain to others, we would have revival.

Look at how much complaining Barzillai did:

  • I can no longer enjoy anything.
  • Food and wine are no longer tasty.
  • I cannot hear the singers as they sing.
  • I would only be a burden to my lord the king.

Seniors, it is OK to complain a little, that is who we are but lets make an effort to balance the board: let covenant together to pray as much as we complain.


The King said to Barzillai…“Come across with me and live in Jerusalem and I will take care of you there.” Barzillai had pleased the king and David wanted to reward him. Are we living to please the KING? Little else matters if we do not please our LORD and KING.

David wanted to provide for Barzillai in his old age but the noble and independant Barzilla would have no part of that: he refused the king’s request. Barzillai realized that it was not about himself. He couldn’t really be a lot of help to David on account of his age. He was afraid he would be a burden on the king so he gave the king his own son. He gave him to be king david’s servant. Of course David, out of respect for Barzillai does not make his son a servant. He gave him title to property in Bethlehem where the son built an Inn. Possibly the same Inn that had no room for Jesus.

We SENIOR ADULTS are known for our honesty. One of the kids from the band was in shock the last time I preached on Sunday morning. He came to me after the service and said, “Brother Jack, I enjoyed the message. You are really blunt.” I would have preferred him to say “You are really bold or brilliant” but he said ‘blunt.’

Barzillai was honest and a bit blunt but he knew that the kingdom did not revolve around him. He had no grand illusions about his own importance. His highest allegience was to the king and his welfare. He simply reminded the king, “Things will be OK now, you no longer need me, you need someone younger so I will give you my son. I prefer to go back home and sleep in my own bed. I want to depart this world from my humble abode and to be buried with my parents.”

Noble men and women are rare: they stand on principle. They give no credence to opinion polls. They have no affinity for popularity or praise. Barzillai told David, “If you want to honor me, let me cross the river with you and then return to my home. That will be honor enough.” Wow, these are the words of a NOBLEMAN. Barzillai felt his services were trivial and unworthy of any recompense from David.  He did not want rank or riches: he simply wanted the honor of being in the presence of his king.

John Trapp said of Barillai, “He was a rose that had lost its colour but not its fragrance.” May the grace be ours to grow old gracefully and beautifully! We may lose our color but may we never lose our fragrance.


The Tongue [Part Two]


 In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches. But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. And among all the parts of the body, the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell itself. People can tame all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and fish, but no one can tame the tongue. It is restless and evil, full of deadly poison. Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it curses those who have been made in the image of God. 10 And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right! 11 Does a spring [fountain, NASB] of water bubble out with both fresh water and bitter water? 12 Does a fig tree produce olives, or a grapevine produce figs? No, and you can’t draw fresh water from a salty spring.




We are talking about the tongue which James describes in detail: The Tongue Is:
  1. A very small part of the body but it boast of great things.
  2. A flame [blow torch] set on fire by hell.
  3. A force that cannot be tamed.
  4. A restless evil, full of deadly poison.
  5. A fountain that bring forth whatever is in the heart.

We all sin and come short of the glory and perfection we see in Jesus. We have all done things and said things that hurt other people. Any person who denies this is calling God a liar [1 John 1:10]. James said, We all make many mistakes. For if we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way. So the fact is, we have made many mistakes with our tongue and not all of them were malicious; some were just careless. One of our problems is denial: we see the sins of others but we don’t see our own, especially as it relates to the tongue. This is not a new problem. Tonight we are going to look at the sins of the tongue as described in Proverbs. Many of these are also mentioned in the N.T.

  1. GOSSIP [to murmur or whisper, to be spacious, to be open, wide open: Webster–casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.
    • Moses [Lev. 19:16] Do not spread slanderous gossip among your people.
    • David [Ps. 41:6] They visit me as if they were my friends, but all the while they gather gossip, and when they leave, they spread it everywhere.
    • Proverbs 11:13– A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.
    • Proverbs 16:28– A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends.
    • Proverbs 17:4– Wrongdoers eagerly listen to gossip; liars pay close attention to slander.
    • Proverbs 20:19–A gossip goes around telling secrets, so don’t hang around with chatterers. [NASB–
      He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, Therefore do not associate with a gossip.
    • Proverbs 25:10–Others may accuse you of gossip, and you will never regain your good reputation.
    • Proverbs 26:20–Fire goes out without wood, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops.
    • Paul [2 Cor. 12:20]–For I am afraid that when I come I won’t like what I find, and you won’t like my response. I am afraid that I will find quarreling, jealousy, anger, selfishness, slander, gossip, arrogance, and disorderly behavior.
  2. SLANDER [the action or crime of making a false spoken statement damaging to a person’s reputation]
    • Psalms 15:1-3–O Lord, who may abide in Your tent? Who may dwell on Your holy hill? He who walks with integrity, and works righteousness, And speaks truth in his heart. He does not slander with his tongue.
    • Proverbs 10:18–He who conceals hatred has lying lips, And he who spreads slander is a fool.
    • Isaiah 32:7–As for a rogue, his weapons are evil; He devises wicked schemes to destroy the afflicted with slander.
  3. LYING [to make  deliberate untruthful; deceitful and false statements such as propaganda]
    • Proverbs 6:7–Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, And hands that shed innocent blood.
    • Proverbs 12:19–Truthful lips will be established forever, But a lying tongue is only for a moment.
    • Proverbs 21:6–The acquisition of treasures by a lying tongue is a fleeting vapor, the pursuit of death.
    • Proverbs 26:28–A lying tongue hates those it crushes, and a flattering mouth works ruin.
  4. FLATTERY [Overly complimentary, excessive praise]
    • Psalms 12:2–They speak falsehood to one another; With flattering lips and with a double heart they speak.
    • Psalms 12:3–May the LORD cut off all flattering lips, the tongue that speaks great things.
    • Proverbs 7:21–With her many persuasions she entices him; With her flattering lips she seduces him.
    • Proverbs 26:28–A lying tongue hates those it crushes, and a flattering mouth works ruin.
  5. TALEBEARER [A person who spreads gossip or confidential information causing unnecessary harm]
    • Proverbs 11:13–He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets, But he who is trustworthy conceals a matter.
  6. BACKBITTING [A person who is looking for a safe place, away from the presence of the one they are talking about: malicious talk about someone who is not present]
    • Proverbs 25:23–The north wind brings forth rain, and a backbiting tongue, an angry countenance
    • Psalms 75:4–“I said to the boastful, ‘Do not boast,’ And to the wicked, ‘Do not lift up the horn.
    • Proverbs 27:1–Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth.
    • Jeremiah 9:23-24–Thus says the Lord, “Let not a wise man boast of his wisdom, and let not the mighty man boast of his might, let not a rich man boast of his riches; but let him who boasts boast of this, that he understands and knows Me, that I am the Lord who exercises loving kindness, justice and righteousness on earth; for I delight in these things,” declares the Lord.
    • Romans 1:29–They were filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, covetousness, malice. Full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, craftiness, they are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, rebellious toward parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 
    • 2 Timothy 3:1-5–But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these.

Dishonorable Mentions

  1. Innuendo–an allusive or oblique remark or hint, typically a suggestive or disparaging one.
  2. Exaggeration–a statement that represents something as better or worse than it really is. An overstatement or magnification.
  3. Profanity–blasphemous or obscene language. Swearing, filthy or foul language, cursing blasphemy, irreverence, disrespect and sacrilege.

Five Steps To Overcoming Discouragement


As the deer longs for streams of water, so I long for you, O God. I thirst for God, the living God. When can I go and stand before him. Day and night I have only tears for food, while my enemies continually taunt me, saying, “Where is this God of yours?” My heart is breaking as I remember how it used to be: I walked among the crowds of worshipers, leading a great procession to the house of God, singing for joy and giving thanks amid the sound of a great celebration! Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again—my Savior and my God! Now I am deeply discouraged, but I will remember you— even from distant Mount Hermon, the source of the Jordan, from the land of Mount Mizar. I hear the tumult of the raging seas as your waves and surging tides sweep over me. But each day the Lord pours his unfailing love upon me, and through each night I sing his songs, praying to God who gives me life. 9 “O God my rock,” I cry, “Why have you forgotten me? Why must I wander around in grief, oppressed by my enemies?”  10 Their taunts break my bones. They scoff, “Where is this God of yours?” 11 Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again—my Savior and my God!


As Augustine said, “We find no rest until we rest God”. The human soul cannot survive the storms of life unless it is anchored in something greater than it self. The soul that rest upon itself will sink in the storm. Christ is the anchor of the soul and it is He who carries us through the storms of life. We are buoyed in Him and He keeps us from sinking in a sea of depression and misery. We long to see Him in the storm and to know that He is near. Matthew Henry once said, “To be in the presence of the Lord is the desire of the upright, as it is the dread of the wicked.” We all like sailing when the seas are calm but whether on land our sea, we have some ups and downs and at times our world is shaken. During these turbulent times we are prone to doubt, to be discouraged, to lose our confidence. Like a ship in the midst of the sea, the human heart is assailed by many things: turbulent times, taunting enemies of the faith, doubt, fear grief, loneliness and just the feeling of being forgotten. Sometimes it is just the feeling of being small, like a ship in the middle of the sea. How could my life mean anything to the grand scheme?

It is at this point that there are things we must remember….

FIRST — DISCOURAGEMENT is always of the devil.

Note these scriptures–

    • When we get together, I want to encourage you in your faith, but I also want to be encouraged by yours. [Rom. 1:12]
    • If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. [Rom. 12:8]
    • Grow to maturity. Encourage each other. Live in harmony and peace. Then the God of love and peace will be with you. [2 Cor. 13:11]
    • I have sent him [Tychicus] to you for this very purpose—to let you know how we are doing and to encourage you. [Col. 4:8]
    • So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing. [I Thes. 5:11]
    • Preach the word of God. Be prepared, whether the time is favorable or not. Patiently correct, rebuke, and encourage your people with good teaching. [2 Timothy 4:2]
    • And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near. [Heb. 10:25]

We must recognize the source of discouragement. No where in scripture does the word of God attribute discouragement to the LORD. Every verse above and there are many more are about encouraging one another. Imagine the writer of Hebrews saying, “Don’t concern yourself about being faithful in worship attendance. It will discourage those that are being faithful and this is good.” Or Paul saying to the Colossians, “I have sent Ty to discourage you.” Ask yourself this question: why did Paul put so much emphasis on encouraging each other? I think the answer is simple: because we are easily discouraged. Matter of fact, it does not take that much to discourage most of us. The world taunts us, the flesh is always pulling us down and the devil is firing those fiery darts of doubt. All believers need encouragement. Take these 13 new Christians we have at DBC, what if next Sunday morning, they were the only ones who showed up? Do you think that would be discouraging? It would be devastating.

Brooks Faulkner, a Leader Care counselor, estimates that nearly 100 SBC pastors leave their ministry every month. Why is this? Some of it is moral failure but a lot of it is what they call burnout which is extended discouragement. First of all, I get quite a bit of encouraging from members and friends and I am thankful but I learned a long time ago that you have to determine where the criticism is coming from. God uses criticism to help us but the devil uses it to destroy us. Good criticism is anchored in a heart of love, destructive criticism is intended to discourage and it always of the devil. Once you know the source, you can deal with what is being said. A man confronted me many years ago with an accusation. He had heard a rumor and he told me that he had a good source. I said, “I know the source.” He argued, “You cannot know the source.” I said, “I assure you that I know the source. What you heard is a lie and all lies originate with Satan and that makes him the source.” He just grunted. This principle is not only true of gossip and rumor, it is true of discouragement. Anyone who intentionally tries to discourage a child of God is being used by Satan.

SECOND: Your personal worth is determined not by your performance or your accomplishments but rather by the price that was paid for your redemption.

Someone said it like this, THE CROSS is your barometer; it is how you measure God’s love for you. Charles Allen says that “No person created in the image of God is useless.” I think it was Elisabeth Elliott who said, “No one who can perform an act of kindness toward another is useless.” We live in a gigantic universe and at times it’s immensity can make us feel rather small. But created us and crowned us with glory and honor [Psalm 8] and that is said of no other creature other than man.

Getting encouragement from others is important but even more important is to understand our relationship with Christ. You need to know who you are in Christ. If you are convinced that He loves you unconditionally and that He values more than He did life: that in itself will change the way you think. I am not a loner: I do enjoy solitude but I like to pick and choose the spots. I enjoy the company of my wife, my children and grandchildren. I cannot imagine a world without them but I can live with their disapproval. There are times when they get angry we me but that does not change my course. I know what Christ has called me to do and I must do it with or without any one’s approval or encouragement. We must maintain our vertical alignment with Christ.

THIRD–Remember, You are needed.

There is something that needs to be done that will not be done unless you do it. God has put you in a unique position: there is no one else on planet earth that has your positioning, conditioning and gifting. The question you need to ask is: “What is it God wants me to do that only I could do?”

FOURTH–Remember, you are empowered.

God has given you a will. You can be what you choose to be. Recently a woman came up to me and just blessed me out. She said several things and none of them were nice or encouraging. When she finished, she threw her head up, wheeled around and marched off. I was standing there is shock. I think my only verbal response was “well.” She is filled with bitterness and she blamed me and others for the way she feels. You choose the way you feel. If you are determined to be discouraged, I can’t help you. If your life goal is to be bitter and sour, no one is going to change you. Ruth was sweet and adorable because she choose to be sweet and adorable. Naomi was bitter because she choose to be bitter. You say, “Naomi had lost a husband and two sons,” and I would say “Ruth had lost a husband and never knew the joy of having a son.” Naomi is your classic example of the person who believes “My problems are worse than your problems.” Problems are problems and grief is grief and everyone has them. Self-pity will destroy the greatest among us

FIFTH–Last but certainly not least…Remember you have an Awesome God to turn to, to trust.

David said, “I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again—my Savior and my God!” First of all: no problem is bigger than God. When I get down and discouraged, I go to God. I get alone and pray. I talk to my maker and redeemer.

Most of us have flown on commercial jets and those who have flown quite a bit know that you can get into turbulent weather. We got into a little on our last flight to Guatemala. The captain spoke to us over the intercom and reminded us to stay buckled. He said, “We have encountered some turbulence and we don’t know where it came from. We have not seen any bad weather on the radar and there are no other air craft near us so its a bit of a mystery but just stay in your seats and hopefully we will get through it shortly.” I’ve been in a lot of turbulence for worse than that day and I have never heard that particular speech. I was on a flight from Atlanta to Huntsville back in 1986 and it is only a 30 minute flight but we got in a thunderstorm. The captain came on and informed us that even though it was a short flight and not normal, we were going to go higher and fly over the storm which he did, thank goodness. This is good advice: when you are in a storm go higher. Go to the one who is greater than the storm.

[For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.]